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misselise: casper! i keep seeing gorgeous girls with dimple...

Sat, 07 Nov 2009 12:07:59 +0800

casper! i keep seeing gorgeous girls with dimple piercings! i want mine done so badly, but employers here are so uptight about piercings. grrrrr. i need to find a job where i can have as many piercings and tattoos as i like!

i love dimple piercings!

misselise: broken city was far to fun back in my minor days. i...

Sat, 07 Nov 2009 11:44:06 +0800

misselise:

broken city was far to fun back in my minor days. i feel like the bar was more fun when i wasnt supposed to be there..

I feel the same (about clubs where I live). I think it’s just because the novelty has worn off though. I’m sick of all the sleezy guys and mess everywhere.

bloodcells: (via ache)

Sat, 07 Nov 2009 11:38:57 +0800

bloodcells:

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Effy: Why bother?

Sat, 07 Nov 2009 11:38:24 +0800

Effy: Why bother?
Tony: With what?
Effy: Caring about people.
Tony: You don't fool me, Effy Stonem

Am I the only one that gets offended when asked if/what I've eaten that day?

Sat, 07 Nov 2009 11:37:00 +0800

Or am I just being ridiculous? I just don’t understand how it can be anyone elses business.

"We all know at least one hardcore people pleaser. You know the signs: She sleeps in the rain and..."

Sat, 07 Nov 2009 10:17:00 +0800

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We all know at least one hardcore people pleaser. You know the signs: She sleeps in the rain and gets the flu so her friend’s dog can fit in the tent. She’s 100% republican but lied about her vote because the nation had Obama fever. If a friend calls her stupid, she whips up a batch of cookies, and makes a card that reads, “I’m sorry for disappointing you.” And despite all her over-the-top efforts to be liked by everyone, many people disrespect her. Maybe that’s you, maybe it’s not–but odds are, you can relate at least a little to the desire to be well-liked. Who doesn’t want to feel accepted, respected, and appreciated?

This isn’t a post about overcoming people-pleaser tendencies–you can find that info here. This post won’t teach you how to make friends and avoid alienating people–you can find that info here. If you generally do your best to learn and grow every day but occasionally stress about other people’s opinions then yes, this post is for you. It’s awesome not everyone likes you because:

10. It allows you to be true to yourself. The biggest disservice you can do yourself is shape-shifting to please your audience. It’s exhausting (even to watch) and, more importantly, pointless. No one will get to know who you really are, which will leave you feeling empty.

9. It gives you the power to say no. I truly believe people are good at heart. That being said, it’s human nature to test boundaries; and it happens all the time in relationships. When you’re willing to be disliked, you’re not afraid to say no as it suits you. Both your yeses and nos shape your future, so choose them wisely.

8. You’ll be more comfortable exploring your feelings. I know–this isn’t a popular one for the male persuasion. (MC Hammer agrees if that lends any credence to this argument.) But doesn’t it feel good to just be where you are without pretending for someone else’s sake? I’m not saying you should act in anger or fear; just that it’s pretty empowering to say, “Hell yeah–I’m terrified” (or lonely or weak or struggling) regardless of what people will think.

7. You can help other people. An angst-filled younger me made a faux voodoo doll for a middle school teacher who forever changed my life (not my proudest moment). It’s often the least popular people who strike the deepest chord in us. Be unpopular when necessary and push people to be their best. You just may save someone’s life.

success36. You can freely express your thoughts. I’ve always said one of the kindest things you can do for someone else is to listen without forming an opinion. You deserve that same kindness, but the reality is you won’t always get it. People will form opinions when you speak. Talk anyways. Be kind in your words, but fearless.

5. It prepares you for great success. Pick one of your favorite popular Twitterers, be it a celebrity or social media guru (there are a ton). Go look at their @replies. Odds are they field their fair share of harsh comments. The higher you rise the more negative feedback you’ll receive, both constructive and unnecessary. Being disliked and OK with it prepares you for making it big.

4. It teaches you to offer kindness and compassion without expectations. It’s not too difficult to offer someone compassion when they’ve treated you with respect and kindness. What’s more valuable for your development as a person, and to mankind as whole, is the ability to do what’s right because it’s right–not because you’ll get something in return.

3. You’ll inspire other people. There is someone I know who has the uncanny ability to keep going, even when others try to pull her down. I learn from her every day. Every person who doesn’t love her assertive, over-the-top personality is a reminder she is unique and not afraid.

2. You can use your time wisely. If you’re liked by everyone, odds are you’re spreading yourself way too thin trying to keep them all happy. I disagree with people who say life is too short. Most of us have plenty of time. We just have to use it well, bettering ourselves and the lives of people around us instead of worrying about other people’s perceptions.

1. You can choose to smile anyways. You could use your energy to make daily inventories of everything that’s wrong–the money you don’t have, the esteem you didn’t earn, the people you disappointed. Or you could commit to being your best, and then sit back and smile. Life will always be a balancing act. Learn to teeter in serenity.

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- http://seeinggood.com/10-reasons-it%E2%80%99s-awesome-people-don%E2%80%99t-like-you/

thedame: rebellgirls: girrrlz: Who is that actress/model,...

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:52:38 +0800

thedame:

rebellgirls:

girrrlz:

Who is that actress/model, does anyone know?

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Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:32:04 +0800

daddybuymeapony:

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People who reblog from me

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 11:28:07 +0800

wakethedead:

mongrelmind:

wakethedead:

I’d appreciate it if you don’t remove the credits.

thanks x.

I hate this! It annoys me even more when someone who has recently added me has done it with loads of my posts (not that half the photos are mine..).

Haha true. But I hate it even more when some people actually remove the click-through links!

Rude! I wonder why people do it haha. It’s obviously not theirs. I credit when I can, though that’s very rarely still.

People who reblog from me

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 11:14:13 +0800

wakethedead:

I’d appreciate it if you don’t remove the credits.

thanks x.

I hate this! It annoys me even more when someone who has recently added me has done it with loads of my posts (not that half the photos are mine..).

wakethedead: crunkitupkait: prostitutionisrevolution: iamglenc...

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 11:12:51 +0800

wakethedead:

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kissmysass:

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justanotherdayinmylife:

swayfishx:

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merlins:

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What is this “almost” you speak of?

Um. I go on every day.

……..ALMOST?

lol almost? i’m on this 24/7

LOL @ ~almost

almost has no part in this. it’s either never or every day. that’s how tumblr works.

defo x.

misselise: pie0:jessie-estella: Tik Tok | Kesha, remixed by...

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 11:10:49 +0800

misselise:

pie0:jessie-estella:

Tik Tok | Kesha, remixed by Fred Falke.

I have a lot of love for Fred Falke. He’s made this song at least 50% better.

ahhhh! this is my party sonnnnng! thank you pie for posting this. so much better! definitely downloading this as we speak! :D

zoli

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 09:32:15 +0800

zoli

tini: ohhhhhh, radeo

Fri, 06 Nov 2009 09:10:35 +0800

tini:

ohhhhhh, radeo

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Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:54:51 +0800

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Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:43:41 +0800

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Thu, 05 Nov 2009 21:43:37 +0800

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thelovelybones: palehearts:funeral:geneticmutations

Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:32:09 +0800

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Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:15:32 +0800

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hoeyoujustmad: I wish I were famous so my fangirls could make...

Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:14:00 +0800

hoeyoujustmad:

I wish I were famous so my fangirls could make me fanart with white bread and mustard

I’m sorry that we only had tomato sauce. I’m not wearing a bra and I forgot about the hat until later on. I was also trying to pose like her but I kept dropping the bread, so I just look like I want to kiss you while concentrating really hard. I even got my camera cord covered in sauce!